In this thesis, I investigate how men, belonging to ethnic minority in Denmark, experience honor-related violence from their families. The analysis of this thesis is based on, a phenomenological approach to describe and understand the phenomena from the men’s point of view. The thesis’ empirical data consist of two qualitative interviews with men, belonging to ethnic minority in Denmark. These men have been suffering under extensive honor related violence from their family and they are no longer in contact with their family, because of the violence. The choice of theoretic are built from themes appearing from the empirical data, where the men’s surroundings appear to have a major influence on how and which problems the men are experiencing in relation to honor related violence, from which they are suffering. This is why I have found following theories appropriate for this thesis; Labelling by Howard S. Becker, Social stigma by Erving Goffman and Shame & social bond by Thomas Scheff. This thesis shows that the participating men, belonging to ethnic minority, has been victims in honor related violence from their family. The men also experience that violence is a common part of being, brought up as a boy in their surroundings. The men experience that the violence has an educational intent, and the violence is thereby a punishment for the men’s non-accepted behavior. The men’s experience of violence are therefore influencing the men’s self-image and because of that, they are more vulnerable in seeking and achieving other social relations. This thesis shows that the men are only seeking help when their possibility to stay with their family is vanished. One of them, through life-threats, and the other by threats of being kicked out from his family-home against his will. The investigation shows, that one of the reasons the men are not seeking help before, is that they fear, that seeking help or moving away from their parents will result in not only losing their family relations, but they are also in risk of losing other social relations to. Due to the fact that their situation or actions will not comply with the norms, of a normal and accepted behavior, in these social relation.