In my project with the title ”The importance of having social networks and of an early effort within the familiy”, I address the psychological and social importance of an early effort regarding pregnant women and families with small children. I also stress the importance of this effort regarding the well-being and development of the child. I am referring to the theories of Stern regarding the concept of self in order to illustrate the child’s need for an emotional and psychological connection to the prime person (the mother) in order to be able to develop social competences. In order to include the new situation (of becoming a mother/being pregnant) I include Stern’s theories about motherhood constellation, from the perspective of the woman. By using Ejrnæs’ theories about networks, I attempt to show the importance of social networks, when helping the families with their problems, before they grow out of hand, thereby causing a break-down in the family. As documentation for the empirical methods, I refer to the researches carries out by the Ministry of Finance and the Ministry of Social Affairs, which describe who contacts the departments taking care of Children and their families and which problems they are bringing forward. The formulation of the problem is as such: The significance of the early effort and the support from the network towards the vulnerable groups of parents-to-be and new parents - both in proportion to how the parents act in their new role as parents and regarding the well-being and development of the child.